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Dear Amy: We acquire afresh been reunited with our son’s adolescent afterwards 10 years. He is 13 — and is delightful, able-bodied behaved, and intelligent.
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However, unfortunately, he has abhorrent table manners.
We went to a restaurant and it anon became credible that he has never been apparent how to use a knife, a napkin, etc.
I didn’t appetite to be critical, so I approved adage things like, “I acquisition it easier to cut my aliment if I authority the knife this way,” or, “I put my napkin in my lap so I can clean me mouth,” — that array of thing.
This was met with a bare attending and the behavior resumed.
It won’t be accessible to allege to his mother about it, and again, I don’t appetite to be critical.
How can I advise him table manners, added than clay acceptable behavior?
— Mannerly Grandmother
Dear Mannerly: You acquire aloof met this boy. I infer from this that there has been abundant about-face in his activity — conceivably a affectionate breach and possibly a aegis shift.
If his ancestor is on the scene, it would be best analytic to allege with him about it. You ability acquire that he has mainly eaten anon out of fast-food bags.
I wouldn’t present this as a top-line concern, about — because the accomplished ancestors is readjusting to your grandson’s re-emergence, you should footfall anxiously and attentive into his life.
Adolescent boys are astute and breakable creatures, with astute acquaintance about actuality advised by others, and they are amidst by adverse and ambagious letters about how they should behave.
For now, don’t actual him, hint, nudge, or use anatomy accent to back your disapproval.
You appetite to be the bodies in his activity who absolutely acquire him, appropriate now — aloof as he is. When he is activity added comfortable, he will relax and alpha watching how you comport yourselves, and over time you can archetypal and action affable instruction.
A abundant way to acquaint table amenities is to absorb him in affable a meal. All adolescence should apperceive how to accomplish a assemblage of appetizing pancakes.
Show him how to set the table. And again sit bottomward and eat together.
Dear Amy: My admirer has fabricated a addiction out of application birthdays and holidays as an befalling to advancement his own affairs — beneath the guise of acceptable allowance giving.
After affairs himself the latest upgraded laptop, he gave me his acclimated laptop for Christmas. (He did absorb money accepting it bankrupt up.)
For my aftermost altogether he took that befalling to advancement his own set of scuba accessory and gave me his acclimated gear.
The affair is, I’m not a diver, and my accepted laptop is altogether able for my needs (the one he gave me is abundant beneath portable).
He gets agitated if I affably abatement these gifts, so these items are absolutely aloof demography up admired closet amplitude at this point.
Am I careless or am I justified in activity a bit ashore in an careless almsman position?
I’m additionally not able to amount out why absolutely this irks me, and it seems able to affected activity as I’m walking ability over to the closet.
— Allowance Horse
Dear Allowance Horse: This irks you because it is irksome.
There is annihilation at all amiss with giving a admired one a reconditioned, used, vintage, buzz allowance (in my opinion), as continued as the account is claimed in nature, admired for or asked for — and not the absolute brood of the giver’s own upgrade!
(I’m talking about you — unwanted, unloved, and bare scuba gear!)
You should back to your guy, “Honey, if you appetite to accord yourself new stuff, again acceptable for you! But I don’t appetite your castoffs. In the future, you should advertise the being you don’t appetite and use the gain about you wish.”
You ability be able to drive this point home the abutting time you advancement your phone. Wrap up the old one and present it to your guy.
He ability say, “Thanks, bairn — but I don’t charge this. I don’t appetite it. I already acquire one!
And you can say, “Exactly.”
Dear Amy: Thank you for your compassionate acknowledgment to “Survivor,” the abused being who capital to accost a adolescence bully, years later.
You wrote: “Vengeance doesn’t quiet rage; it stokes it.”
Put addition way: Revenge is like bubbler adulteration and acquisitive the added being will die.
Dear Beth: Yes! This abstruse account rings so true.
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